decided to write down a list of things to remember in my next relationship (if ever) becos i dont want the same to happen again. i want to make love and i want to make love last.

1. Things to find out before holding hands, or kissing.

- What are your priorities in life? does it include getting married and having a family? can u balance work and family? i dont want to live in a big house. i just wanna be simple and happy with the one i love. thats what i need.

2. Must MUST be friends for at least 6 mths before holding hands, 9 mths before kissing. TAKE THINGS SLOW. and no !!

3. No bringing guy home until at least 1 yr tog. DO NOT GO TO HIS HOUSE ALSO.

4. he must go to church on a regular basis and love god deeply.

5. Try to read in btw the lines and if he ever lies to you, seriously, i think u shud forget him if the lies are pretty extreme.

6. DO NOT Believe their sweet nothings. trust me on this. a guy never means what he says.. esp at the start. if married, then maybe different thing.

7. DO NOT date younger guys. they are too immature and are at a different phase in life to understand.

8. If any guy breaks ur heart or want a sudden breakup, GIVE UP ON HIM cos he is not worth ur love and dun ever take him back or feel needy or sms him.

9. IF the guy is not worth it, please give him up from the start. if he starts focusing on himself and not you..

10. pls dont get so tied up in love. play hard to get. dont give him everything easy. let him chase and understand him well before progressing.

11. DO NOT complain to guys abt your work. suck it in and dun bring extra problems to the guy u love.

12. BE PATIENT TOWARDS HIM.

13. Try to not get so immersed in love and every now and then take a breather to think if anything has changed from wk to wk, and if yes, ask him what caused it and settle it before it escalates.

14. Find out if your guy has any trust issues with you.. tell him you dont need to relate your prior life experiences like a broken recorder. ask him if its ok with him. i personally dont like it when i had to relate everything. its not justified and it made me feel crappy and that he didnt trust me well. never compromise your values and dignity for a guy.

15. dont overlook the problems and things u dont like abt him just cos u are in love.

16. dont meet your guy so often. dont push ur frens out of ur life. go out with them s regular as u were before. dont give up ur social life for him.

17. NEVER LIVE for a guy alone. live for God and for yourself.

remember all these.. and u will never walk down memory lane like this again.. it hurts so bad so remember, avoidance is better than cure. dont let guys break your heart again. make them fight for you.

all the best.

ive moved on, so this blog shall be.. till i meet the guy of my dreams...